Trusting yourself and not demanding perfection are the two most important rules for overcoming shyness, a common situation that primarily affects children.
Usually the person is shy when they feel exposed and are not sure that they will be accepted even if they fail, this makes the person avoid talking and is very inhibited in situations such as presenting to someone and presenting a job at school for example .
The 8 steps you can take to stop being shy and become a more confident person are:
- Be positive and develop positive thinking;
- Be more sociable and try to make friends;
- Recognize, accept and face your fears and concerns;
- Do not belittle yourself;
- Look at other people's eyes;
- Do not require so much of yourself;
- Trust yourself;
- Know your strengths and apply them.
Shyness can limit quality of life, especially when it causes suffering and affects your relationship with one's family, friends or co-workers. Adopting these strategies can help a lot, but if it is not possible to keep these thoughts and attitudes in practice, it may be appropriate to seek help from a psychologist or psychoanalyst, for example.
How to overcome shyness at work
To overcome shyness at work, some tips that the individual may follow may be:
- Speak and interact with one co-worker at a time;
- Start with small conversations;
- Bringing together the most trustworthy co-workers;
- Demonstrate an interest in listening and learning,
- Participate in dynamics and group activities.
At work, it is important for the individual not to be afraid to risk and, especially, not to charge so much.
How to overcome shyness to speak in public
To overcome shyness to speak in public, some strategies can help such as:
- Know well the subject that will explain;
- Study the subject well, imagining the questions that can be asked by the public;
- Organize the presentation and annotate keywords;
- Train before the presentation before the mirror and then before a small audience made up of individuals with whom you feel comfortable;
- Begin the presentation by telling a joke or story that catches your eye;
- Have a pen, a book or the notes in your hands and walk the stage to not show the tremors;
- Fix your eyes at any point in the auditorium without looking at any individual from the audience;
- Remember that the public knows little of the subject you are presenting.
With the training and the frequency of presentations in public, you can gain confidence and lose your shyness.
In some cases, the psychologist may be fundamental so that the individual can understand the causes of his shyness and overcome it.
