During the education of the child and the adolescent, the parents should be attentive to praise the effort that the child made to try to learn something new, because to praise only good results can make that it only shows interest by what already dominates, locking when is facing a new challenge.
This is because complimenting only on success causes the child to be afraid of trying harder activities that he or she does not yet master, for fear of failing and receiving no praise.
This may be reflected when the child receives praise only when he or she does the ballet choreography well, but does not achieve good results in music lessons, for example. If the parents only emphasize how good she is at ballet, she will find that she will never be good at music lessons, becoming unmotivated and losing her interest in these classes.
Thus, the ideal is to praise your effort to try to learn as this will keep you motivated to meet new challenges and develop new skills, becoming a more uninhibited and more confident child.
How to praise your child to make him more confident
To praise your child so that he is more confident, try some simple actions on a daily basis, such as saying: Okay, you're trying and you've come this far. Now let's see if you can get there.
When reading a book, for example, the child should be commended for the effort to learn to read and for the time invested in this activity, rather than to praise it for having reached the end of the book and know to detail the whole story read.
The same kind of compliment should be made regarding grades at school, the sport practiced and the small everyday skills, such as dressing alone, tidying up the room or eating fruits and vegetables, for example.
The important thing is to make little compliments during the step-by-step and if the child is sad for not reaching the final goal, say: Very well! For today it's good, you've done what you could and it's really very difficult to get here. Now let's see if we can do even more tomorrow.
How to praise behavior
In addition to the activities your child does, it is also important to praise your good behavior. Thus, to encourage education and personal growth, the family should praise when the child is kind and polite to someone, when he is generous or when he favors his neighbor rather than himself.
Another important point is to praise her when she accepts a "no" without making a tantrum or crying, to understand that "no" is part of life and must be faced in a mature way.
How to gift an achievement
It is common for parents to give candy, toys, or movie goings after a child's conquest, but this should not become routine, as children need to learn to face the challenges of their own growth, not just to win a new gift.
Reinforcing an attitude with rewards is a good way to stimulate the child, but both the present and the compliment should be given only in the face of a real achievement when the child really had to strive for a good result. What you can do to value each achievement is to verbalize your joy through your child's effort, with a smile and a hug so that he realizes that more important than the present is the presence of loved ones around us.
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